Pursuit of S.H.E.

Ever growing, picking up petals along the way.

You have to be all in on your growth, lean in.

Everyone doesn’t get a seat at the table and that’s okay- the kids table always has more room.

Good friends feel like sunshine, no shade.

Even if they only played an important role in your life for a season doesn’t mean there won’t be a recurring character in a later season.

Love doesn’t come easy but there’s a difference in effortless and less effort.

You are only a portion of what they see on social media. Don’t do it for the likes.

You can outgrow people but you can’t grow where you don’t plant yourself. Dig!

Life is much more enjoyable when you’re honest with yourself.

Set boundaries- not everyone deserves your energy but find the good in everyone anyway.

Some things actually need to be left unsaid.

If they made you the villain are they really the superhero?

Some friendships are based on solidarity and some are based on your solitary.

The whole view isn’t a clear view when the glass is dirty.

A closed door is not a locked door and a locked door can be opened with the right key.

Instant gratification is just that- what you are doing to sustain that feeling is worth reviewing.

Take what a narcissist says about someone else with a grain of salt.

Your personal growth can supersede professional growth- growth mindset.

I started noticing grays in my late 20s. I would feverishly try to cover them.

I never quite understood why they only appeared at the front of my head, framing my face.

Once I hit 30 my hips spread quickly and I agonized about all the weight I felt I was gaining.

I got so frustrated with buying jeans and pants because I never could find my size.

I was disappointed when my vision of my pant size did not match what would actually fit in the fitting room.

I had to reshape my thought process.

I rediscovered how much I enjoy my curves, dimples, skin and features.

I realized how much I love me.

The love you show for yourself can shift minds.

It’s powerful. Embrace it.

There are lyrics for every mood and situation.

You can always find a song to get you through, spark excitement, set the mood, or inspire a crowd.

Music connects the world. You may experience gratification from simply hearing (or singing) the lyrics to a song that brings a memory to mind.

Although the beat can move us, the words are what often makes you stop, rewind and truly listen.

You don’t always need a beat. You can make movements in silence and movements without a stage.

You don’t have to be a celebrity or iconic musical artist to inspire the masses.

Be the hype man for your own life.

What would you create if you knew there were no limits?

Magic happens when we open our minds and hearts to possibilities.

I’m a planner. I actually prefer to use a physical planner to keep things in order.

We all write down goals, but often we put our goals off as new considerations arise.

I have discovered how much I can accomplish just by putting myself out there.

Recognizing what matters to YOU and that you have all the tools to make it HAPPEN- is the first affirmation.

We can’t press pause on life.

Hit play with urgency and watch how quickly you WIN…

The pain was burdensome.

Carrying that weight for almost two years- holding myself so small.

I didn’t think that I could function with a bruised heart.

My plans were contingent upon someone else’s life. I was so worried about how everything was falling apart.

I lost sight of my OWN dreams and WHO I was.

My friends didn’t recognize me and i could feel myself falling into a deep depression.

I needed to be poured into. I needed to shift my thoughts.

I knew that I had to heal my heart to be ready for someone else.

I started to focus on me and what really made me happy.

I opened myself up to everything new. I wanted to live outrageously and go for it.

I adopted this idea that anything was possible, and it was.

I made new connections, reconnected with friends and family, and readily received blessings.

I held myself to MY highest possibility.

Once I let go of what my life should look like, I was able to commit to the wins.

I am a powerful woman and I have created a space for me.

Morning kisses and back rubs

Pillow talking about aspirations

Falling in love with how our goals align

Enjoying how joy can come from a small moment

How intimacy is euphoric

He provides room for me to be my best self

He loves my masks unconditionally

Nothing for me is a weakness because he is every muscle unexercised

He doesn’t make me whole as we are whole on our own

Our love is unparalleled to any experience before

He is perfect lyrics to a song I have not yet heard but was made explicitly for my ears.

He was created imperfectly perfect to match my 100

So I give him the master key to create a space in the softest place on earth

I dreaded the onset of 30 like going to the DMV.

I could imagine in all of my 20s what my life would be like at 30.

When you’re a kid, 30 seems so old.

I thought I had most of it together at 29.

They say good things come in threes.

At the brink of 30, I had to move, end a long-term relationship, and received a small promotion.

At the time, only one of these events felt like a win.

It took me well into 31 to realize that the events had to happen to make room for other events.

As women, I believe, we will long division the sh*t out of something to determine the “right” answer.

I’m no math buff but I always had a need to find the derivative.

When I stopped creating insufficiencies, I solved my own math problems.

So far, my 30s have been the some of my most transformative times.

Don’t create limits where they don’t exist by placing fear on empty expectations.

Hello 30-ish going on Metamorphosis…

Dating doesn’t seem to come organically anymore. It’s almost like you can’t be actively dating if you’re not actively on social media.

Men don’t even ask for your number anymore. I still chuckle to myself when a man asks for my social media handle when he’s interested.

Is this the new norm?

If I want to get to know someone, I need to check an app to see if I received a message. Or better yet, check my Insta account for a DM?

This is a far cry from how simplistic dating “used” to be.

Now you can simply follow someone on social media and receive instant gratification on whether you want to date them… or the social media them.

With all the filters and photo editing tools available at our disposal, the real {insert name here} could be the most disappointing FISH you CATch.

On the other hand, who doesn’t mind eye candy at your disposal in multiple platforms.

Growing up without social media and before smart phones has made me miss the days dating required more effort that checking a dating app.

I can’t bash the apps completely, I’ve had some to minimal success.

There are research studies to document the high/ dopamine release people experience for positive social media reactions.

Just make sure you are swiping right on yourself first.

I am a huge advocate for professional development. I always encourage colleagues to take advantage of opportunities that arise.

Oftentimes, however, we don’t consider how important personal development is.

If you would have told me 5 months ago that everything in my life would be flipped upside down, I would have been reluctant to believe you.

I would be hopeful and kindly respond, “From your lips to God’s ears.”

Little did I know that meeting 50+ strangers would effortlessly shake up my comfort level in the most beautiful way.

People who I had only known for less than 5 months, helped me to discover me. The REAL me.

To truly move forward, it helps to be of clear mind.

Professionally, we have so many opportunities to grow.

Devote some time to watering your most important root.

When your eyes are blinded by insecurities, it’s amazing who God invites to let the sun in.

What happens when you let God take the wheel?

Someone prayed for me, they prayed and they prayed and then they prayed some more.

I prayed for myself, but often followed them with conversations of doubt.

It’s funny. You can think you’re wrapped neatly in a beautiful perfect box- and yet be the messiest gift wrap you’ve ever seen.

No matter how many times I heard how worthy I was from those close to me, it did not resonate until I heard it from strangers… but most importantly, myself.

God truly reigns in Heaven, but His angels here on Earth, have a mission.

Don’t sit on the passenger side for your life, be the driver and let Him be the seatbelt.